Finding Femininity in the Fighter

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Taekwondo boudoirValarie has been fighting since she was four years old. She grew up with a love for the Power Rangers, and she wanted to become the Pink Ranger. She signed up at her local martial arts school for “Pink Ranger school,” and her mother enrolled her in dance lessons. Fiercely proud of her father, who is also a professional athlete, and endlessly grateful for her coach, whom she describes as “the “only one who’s stuck by [her] side and never given up on [her],” Valarie grew up the underdog in the taekwondo community — but by the time she was 9, she had to make the choice between either sticking to taekwondo or dance. “I chose to kick people in the face,” she says with a shrug. “I was kicking and punching and breaking sh–; I was so happy. I fell in love with the sport, and I never looked back.”

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In grammar school, Valarie felt misunderstood, since other girls her age didn’t live the lifestyle she did, and friendships were fleeting. “I sacrificed my childhood for taekwondo,” she explains, though nowadays she does seek a balance between her social life and her fighter life. Training is demanding on her schedule, and to her it is simply part of her lifestyle as well as her job (she also teaches it to children). “I’ve tried to quit before, but I always came back.”
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Art of Seduction: Valarie, our Diva in heelsIn addition to her discipline for the martial art, Valarie fuels her success in taekwondo with passion and drive. “When we kick our paddles, they make a popping noise, and I just love it. Every time I kick it I want to make the next one louder, the next one faster, and make every one better than the last, make my coach proud.” Since she’s also the only female senior on her team, she travels to different places to train.

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Valarie and her coach, via The Redeye

Valarie and her coach, via The Redeye

Valarie wanted to do her boudoir session to emphasize that life is all about keeping harmony between the masculine and feminine energies — that despite the fact that she spends most of her time engaging in the contact sport, she still has a delicate, feminine side of her.
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Art of Seduction presents taekwondo Diva ValarieIt’s not always easy, since there are boundaries to be drawn between both the fighting world and her personal life. “I separate them; I don’t mix the two. My female friends don’t get it, and most of my taekwondo peers are out of state.” People from the taekwondo community react with surprise when she gets dolled up for a nice night out with her guy. “Because I’m a fighter, people expect me to look masculine when I’m out in the world,” she explains. Conversely, whenever she’s out and about and regular people find out she’s a fighter, they want her to show them some of her moves. “If I’m dressed in heels, I’m not going to kick.”
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“[In taekwondo, women are] pretty equal to the men, though,” Valarie says. It’s important to note, however, that equal does not mean the same. She channels her femininity even while she is kicking: “Even though you are fighting, you can still be graceful about it. The way you bounce and move, it flows — all is one — as opposed to being heavy on your feet. Guys tend to just pound the sh– out of each other; you can hear them across the room.” Valarie instead chooses a more understated approach, because after all, the fact cannot be denied: She’s a woman!
When you think of fighting, you think of tough and brutal, but there is another side to us. I love my dresses and heels. If I’m not in my basketball shorts kicking something, I’m dolled up. Before my hair was blonde, it was pink — and before that, it was pink, blue, and purple, so I love to play around with my look. It gives me a lot of confidence. I’m even taller than my boyfriend in my heels, and I love it. I’m also a big horror movie fan. I love to put myself into the girlie role, cry, be afraid, cuddle and have him protect me . . . and I love a great romantic comedy! I just always keep in touch with my feminine side, even if I’m very exposed to the masculine all the time. It’s important.”
Art of Seduction's Signature Pose: Diva Valarie
Art of Seduction taekwondo Diva Valarie's testimonial
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